Heart-Healthy Harmony

A formative, family-friendly factoid from a survey or study in the news.

Domestic discord breaks hearts. Literally. A report in the Oct. 8 issue of the Archives of Internal Medicine describes a British study that linked constant bickering in the home — whether between spouses, children or any combination of the two — with a significantly heightened risk of cardiovascular disease. Of course, some conflict is inevitable wherever two or more are gathered under a family name. How to tame tension in a loving Catholic home? Quit trying to win arguments, say the experts. Not only will you do your heart a favor but you’ll also show the children how to practice the cardinal virtue of prudence. “Some people view conflict and confrontation as a win-lose situation. These spouses see being right as far more important than the marital relationship,” points out a wise column in Christianity Today. “But working out a hurtful issue is not about who’s right and who’s wrong. Your goal should not be to win, but to confront a conflict and restore the harmony in your relationship.”

Cistercian Father Thomas Esposito says of discerning one’s college choice, ‘There has to be something that tugs at you and makes you want to investigate it further. And then the personal encounter comes in the form of a visit or a chat with a student or alumnus who communicates with the same enthusiasm or energy about the place. And then that love of a place can be a seed which germinates in your own heart through prayer.’

Choose a College With a Discerning Mind and Heart

Cistercian Father Thomas Esposito, assistant professor of theology at the University of Dallas (UD) and subprior (and former vocations director) of the Cistercian Abbey of Our Lady of Dallas, drew from his experience as both a student and now monastic religious to help those discerning understand the parallels between religious and college discernment.