Family Means You Are Not Alone

User's Guide to Sunday, Dec. 28


Sunday, Dec. 28, is the feast of the Holy Family of Jesus (Year B). Jan. 1 is the Solemnity of the Blessed Virgin Mary, the Mother of God, a holy day of obligation.


Mass Readings

Sirach 3:2-6, 12-14; Psalm 128:1-5; Colossians 3:12-21; Luke 2:22-40 or 2:22, 39-40


Our Take

Today is the feast of the Holy Family, and the readings are filled with explanations of how none of us is alone: We are each embedded in family relationships which define us — even if those relationships were fleeting.

The Gospel centers on Simeon’s great revelations about Christ. But notice that he doesn’t just encounter Jesus — he encounters the Holy Family. “The parents brought in the child Jesus,” and “The child’s father and mother were amazed at what was said about him,” says the Gospel.

And Simeon didn’t just predict Jesus would be a “light for revelation to the Gentiles.” He also had a prediction for Mary: “And you yourself a sword will pierce.”

The fate of Jesus is not his alone: It affects his whole family.

And Simeon wasn’t alone in recognizing Christ in the Temple. Anna also appeared on the scene and “spoke about the child to all who were awaiting the redemption of Jersualem.”

It is interesting to note how Anna is described: She is a prophetess, but she is also “the daughter of Phanuel of the tribe of Asher. She was advanced in years, having lived seven years with her husband after her marriage and then as a widow until she was eighty-four.”

She is a woman of the Temple — but she is also the daughter of a man long dead and a widow of a man long gone. Just as Jesus is defined by his parents, and they by him, her two human family relationships define her, even though they were brief and long since terminated.

In the same way, our human relationships define us. We are sons and daughters, husbands and wives, mothers and fathers.

Were you adopted? So was Jesus. Is your son or daughter not your biological child? Same with Joseph. Was your marriage brief? So was Anna’s.

Do you feel all alone in the world? Simeon and Anna might have also — until they came to the Temple and recognized Jesus there, just as we do when we come to the tabernacle.

Today’s feast speaks to us, and it calls us to renew our family relationships — mother and father, son and daughter — in Christ.

St. Paul has beautiful advice for how to do so. We can use his list of family virtues as an examination of conscience.

Which of these family virtues do we lack? —  “heartfelt compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience, bearing with one another and forgiving one another, if one has a grievance against another; as the Lord has forgiven you, so must you also do.”

Do these words describe our interactions? “Over all these put on love,” “let the peace of Christ control your hearts,” “be thankful,” and “let the word of Christ dwell in you richly, as in all wisdom you teach and admonish one another.”

We could all do better at each of these things. But we all know where to start: where Simeon and Anna did, with the Holy Family.

Ask Mary, our Blessed Mother, for the graces we need. Imitate Joseph, the Guardian of the Redeemer, in his purity, generosity and vigilance.

“And whatever you do, in word or in deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.”


Tom and April Hoopes write from Atchison, Kansas,

where Tom is writer in residence at Benedictine College.