Emma, I think what’s happening here is that you grossly misunderstand Catholic sexual teaching. You are no longer Catholic because you never really understood what Catholicism meant to begin with. Sadly, this is likely not merely your fault, as good catechesis has been sorely missing for the past fifty years in many corners.
Your presentation is based on the falsehood which implies that Catholic teaching against homosexuality exists based solely on the pretense of the same sex attraction in and of itself. In other words, as if we teach against homosexuality merely to persecute the condition itself like bigots. This philosophical falsehood is best illustrated by your assertion, “what if they told you because you were heterosexual and you had to stay chaste…” etc. Homosexuality is not wrong merely because it is homosexuality and we want to teach against it simply to marginalize all homosexual people. It is wrong because under all circumstances of its sexual acts is the gift of life deliberately closed. Homosexual sex is mutual masturbation, nothing more. There is no provision for the possibility of procreation. It is a perversion of God’s sexual economy, ordered to the beautiful gift of life, that He gifted His creatures with.
And here’s news, if you are heterosexual, yes you must stay chaste for life unless you are married God’s way. Remember that we live in a world that says sex is everything. This is neither the Catholic position, nor the position of any human being who acts worthy of his own dignity. Many heterosexuals in the Church remain chaste their whole lives, and not all of them are even clergy. God teaches that in order to enjoy the gift of sex, we must do so in such a way that makes us full gifts to each other. It must be a purely unselfish offering in its intent, purpose, and execution. To be married God’s way means to be open to the gift of life. This means that contraception, abortion, in-vitro fertilization, sterilization, etc are all intrinsic evils. Homosexuality falls into this camp (as an intrinsic evil) because it, like contraception and sterilization is deliberately hostile to the procreative element of the sexual embrace, and separates the act of conception from the self-giving gift of sex. The sexual act must be ordered to life, which means that any and all sexual acts that are not sinful must necessarily be ordered to what are normally the conditions present for the bringing forth of new life.
By the way, sterility has nothing to do with this. A married couple who is sterile may still enjoy the fullness of the sexual embrace because they are not deliberately closed to the gift of life, and the sexual act in and of itself remains ordered to life (whereas the homosexual act is always closed to life and never harbors the potential for it whatsoever). Sterility is the unintended exception to the norm, but does not compromise the fact that heterosexual sex in and of itself is still intrinsically ordered to life and homosexual sex is still never ordered to life, but rather, intrinsically ordered against life and toward hedonism. The happenstance of sterility does not compromise the normal good and divine architecture of the heterosexual act, which is by function and origin ordered to life. For the sterile couple, it is not a state of rejoicing that they cannot conceive by means totally independent of their will. Any Catholic couple rejoicing in their sterility and enjoying the sexual embrace under the deliberate intent of a contraceptive mentality is sinning. No sexual act may deliberately close itself to life under pain of sin.
If what you said about Catholicism is true (i.e. that we arbitrarily discriminate against homosexuality merely because it is homosexuality and thus we are simply bigoted), then the Church would not teach any of the aforementioned provisions in unison with that one. I think you need to learn to see the relationship between ALL Catholic sexual teachings and taxonomize Catholic moral law correctly rather than jump to conclusions to support a politically correct agenda without knowing all the facts. I wonder, have you read the Catechism cover to cover? If you did, you may figure out very quickly that you did not indeed ever understand the world view you claim to have left because of its alleged bigotry.
The homosexual union in and of itself is an abomination before God because it violates natural law, deliberately defies procreation under all circumstances, and undermines the natural family while destroying fundamental tenets of sexual morality. There is no comparison whatsoever between the traditional family (father and mother) and the homosexual “family.” They are fundamentally different and diametrically opposed philosophically. This fact is obvious on its face. It is intellectually backward and sad that we actually have to debate this in our society. That such an issue has actually even come up for debate speaks volumes for our inability to use reason. Anybody who says that the homosexual union is the same as the heterosexual union needs a serious reality check.
Just like it is no coincidence that the Church teaches against homosexuality IN UNISON with all the other aforementioned doctrines about the dignity of the sexual embrace, it is no coincidence that the homosexual agenda almost always hops in the abortion, contraception, sterilization, and in-vitro fertilization bandwagon. One of us is in defense of the dignity of life under all circumstances (which by definition can compromise nowhere on this), the other is in defense of arbitrary pleasures and selfish acts independent of the consequences of their execution and God’s profound sexual economy, cheapening the dignity of the human person to mere animalism and destroying the selfless nature of the natural sexual act. Homosexual acts, as well as all other perversions of human sexuality, are evil and destructive to society as they undermine the moral foundation of sexual responsibility and continence.
No, there is a huge difference between the homosexual act and the homosexual person. One is a sin and the other is a person. The Church teaches that ALL persons have dignity and deserve respect. This is official Catholic teaching. No matter how bigoted people may want to think we are, it doesn’t change the fact that we indeed aren’t and have very good reasons to teach against this evil picture of sexuality. By your strange logic (that to preach against this sin is to be bigoted against the person), the Church also hates alcoholics, fornicators, and the like. Neither Jesus nor His Church has ever hated these people, but yes, Jesus and His Church will preach the truth about their actions so that they may be saved. How criminal and bigoted we are, willing the eternal salvation of others. Shame on us, right?
There is NO comparison between the Catholic Church’s teachings and what is happening in this video. Read the Catechism someday to find out why. You may be surprised to find nothing but pure reason, natural law, and beauty in that book that nobody seems to bother reading.