This Lent has been one few of us will ever forget.

On Ash Wednesday, we were marked with ashes and reminded that we are dust and unto dust we shall return. Few of us realized just how Lent would become an extended meditation on the reality of death coming to so many, so suddenly, as a result of the new coronavirus.

We have all been led into the experience of the desert, far away not only from distractions — sports, late-night shows, parties, outside commitments, face-to-fact contact with most of our friends, family and neighbors — but also from the typical experiences of school and work.

Many of our Lenten resolutions have been revised by circumstances. Our fast has involved a fast from Mass, Holy Communion and the sacrament of penance. Our prayer has taken place not in churches but in domestic monasteries and in cyberspace. Our almsgiving has featured not drawing near to those in need but socially distancing ourselves.

And if these were not all sufficient penances, some have been suffering with coronavirus and caring for those who have gotten it or tragically succumbed to it. Others have had to deal with consequences of losing jobs.

The coronavirus — with all of its religious, civic, economic and social repercussions — has turned our Lent, and our lives, upside down. Many of us come to the last week of Lent not gearing up with enthusiasm for the home stretch but just trying stoically to survive.

The final lap of Lent, Holy Week, is meant to be our holiest week of the year, not just because we relive the holiest events of all time — Jesus’ passion, death and resurrection — but also because they contain a special power to make us holy. Regardless of how we’ve lived Lent until now, it’s a time for special dedication, when poor Lents can be salvaged and good Lents can be perfected.

And if this Lent has been unusual, this Holy Week will be even stranger, when we will mark Palm Sunday, Holy Thursday, Good Friday and Easter not in church with our fellow Catholics but at home.

The liturgies of Holy Week are so powerful that — when we show up and are attentive — the prayers, readings, music, homilies, smells and bells will normally bring us into the heart of the mysteries. Prioritizing the time to be there — for Holy Thursday Mass and prayer before the altar of repose; for the Good Friday Passion Service, Stations of the Cross, Divine Mercy Chaplet and Seven Last Words; for the Easter Vigil on Holy Saturday, the most important and beautiful Mass of the year — already predisposes us to receive what God wants to give. Just entering into the church is a choice to leave the profane and enter the sacred.

Such settings cannot be replicated. But this Holy Week we’re summoned to do the best we can. To live it well will require greater than normal cooperation with God’s grace, far greater preparation and more focused prayer.

I’ve always been fascinated by the preparations Jesus made for Holy Week. He gave intricate instructions for Palm Sunday (Luke 19:29-35) and even more elaborate directions for Holy Thursday (Luke 22:1-13). In a larger view, God had spent centuries preparing for these events, announcing them through the prophets, preparing his people for them liturgically with the annual Passover rites.

This year, if Holy Week is truly going to be lived in a holy way and help sanctify us, we’re going to have to take greater responsibility and cooperate with Jesus in making similar preparations, interiorly and exteriorly.

The interior preparations are going to involve prayer and reading. There are some great books to help. I would recommend Bishop Alban Goodier’s classic The Passion and Death of Our Lord Jesus Christ and Pope Benedict’s Jesus of Nazareth, Part II, Holy Week: From the Entrance into Jerusalem to the Resurrection, which could be read individually or, better, as a family.

It would also be a time to watch some of the great movies about Jesus, which help us retrace the steps of Jesus’ life that led to the Upper Room, Calvary and the tomb. Mel Gibson’s The Passion of the Christ can help us enter into the major moments and the suffering Jesus loved us enough to endure. The Visual Bible’s Gospel of Matthew, Gospel of John, Gospel of Luke and Gospel of Mark, while of variable cinematically quality, follow the words of sacred Scripture and are a visual lectio divina. Zeffirelli’s Jesus of Nazareth likewise can help enter Jesus’ milieu.

In a special way this year, as most will have to watch the sacred ceremonies on television or on devices, learning how to use these media better to focus on Jesus through movies like these will make it easier for us to pray through them better as we watch the ceremonies.

The exterior preparations are likewise important. They begin with trying to create, as best we can, sacred space in our home where we can block out distractions. The place should be cleaned and put in order, like a well-cleaned church. We should dress up like we would if we were attending our parish. We should actively participate in the liturgies to the extent possible, praying aloud the responses, kneeling, standing and sitting as we would when attending. Even though we will not be receiving Holy Communion, it would be good nevertheless to live a Eucharistic fast in preparation for Mass, to increase our hunger for God and to prevent needing to run needlessly to the restroom. We should turn off all our other devices, to prevent interruptions and distractions.

Another part of the external preparations is finding the broadcast to watch that will best foster prayer at home. Some will prefer the livestream from their church or rectory chapel, celebrating with their parish priests. Others will find a one-camera broadcast from a cellphone via Facebook, with its various visual and audio limitations, hard to endure for the length of the Holy Week liturgies. If so, a little homework to find a broadcast from churches or chapels used to televising Mass — with music, multiple angles to focus better on what is happening in the liturgy, and much greater experience conveying the sacred mysteries through media — would be time well spent. Many cathedrals are equipped each week to livestream the Mass with the bishop, with many permanent high-definition cameras. Type “livestream Catholic Mass” in a search engine and click on the on-demand recordings of previous Sundays and find one that feeds your hunger.

A few other suggestions to live Holy Week well.

On Palm Sunday, it’s fine to use the palms from last year that you have hopefully retained at home; otherwise, substitute other branches. Pray for the grace to welcome Jesus within, like the people of Jerusalem welcomed him within the city walls. 

On Holy Thursday, when we celebrate the institution of the Eucharist and of the priesthood that brings it to us, pray in a special way that the involuntary Eucharistic fast because of COVID-19 will help people learn to appreciate even more the importance of the real presence of Christ. Please pray, too, for priests and priestly vocations, that they may grow to model their lives on what they celebrate and never cease to bring this greatest gift of God to his people. After watching Mass, it might be good to drive to your local parish and spend an hour in vigil outside the church where Jesus rests in the tabernacle.

On Good Friday, spend the whole day entering into the Passion of Christ as well as you can. In addition to the reading and videos mentioned above, it might be helpful to listen or watch one of the many recordings of Jesus’ seven last words available on the internet, to pray the Stations at home, to begin the novena to Divine Mercy. It would be a special day to entrust to Jesus all those who have died or whose lives are at risk because of the coronavirus, that they might receive what Jesus gave the Good Thief.

On Holy Saturday, prepare interiorly for the Easter Vigil after the long Lent of 2020. It’s the longest and richest Mass of the year, in which we relive so many of the principal events of salvation history. Stoke your gratitude for all God has done. Pray for the grace to enter fully into Jesus’ triumph over death. Commit yourself to seek the things that are above. Open yourself to the joy that the risen Christ is with us until the end of time.

While the first Holy Week was chaotic, it still accomplished its purpose. As we relive those mysteries next week in the midst of multiple challenges, the God of miracles can nevertheless make it the holiest week or our year.