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Ex-Lesbian Shares Moving Story of Conversion

BY Danielle Bean

| Posted 7/21/10 at 8:00 AM

 

In this short video from the Christian Broadcasting Network, we hear the moving life story of former lesbian Janet Boynes.

Boynes, a victim of a dysfunctional family life and sexual abuse as a child, thought she had found love and meaning in a lesbian lifestyle. Ultimately, though, her life left her wanting.

“Although she had had a conversion to Christianity, Boynes says her lesbian experience led her to reject her faith and to enter into the homosexual lifestyle, with all of its turbulence and pain. She moved from one relationship to the next, became a cocaine addict, and developed bulimia, she says.

‘My life was miserable. It was starting to go literally down the tubes,’ says Boynes. ‘But I was refusing to come back to God.’”

When she finally made a move to return to her Christina faith, Boynes did not know what to expect from the women she would meet there. Because she feared judgement and anger, she hesitated to share her sexuality with others at her church. But their Christ-like reaction to her confession and need surprised her:

“Everyone introduced themselves, and when they got to me, they asked me my name, and I said, my name is Janet.’ and I said, ‘I’m living a homosexual life. But if you help me, I will live my life for the Lord.’”

Boynes says she was shown compassion and understanding, and given support by the church’s members in her struggle to free herself from her addictive lifestyle.  Eventually, a couple offered to take her into their home, where she lived for a year and received the love she had never experienced as a child.  She abandoned lesbianism permanently, and recovered her heterosexual identity.

Janet now shares her story of conversion and recovery in an attempt to reach out to others who are suffering with that same kind of love and compassion.

I’m sure that advocates of homosexuality will sneer at Janet Boynes’ story and ministry. Why offer hope and healing, after all, to people who need nothing of the kind?

But Boynes knows better. Having come to her lesbianism as a reaction to the pain of abuse and dysfunction, she knows all too well that homosexuality itself is dysfunctional:

“I want everybody else that’s living the homosexual life who didn’t have a great mother or who didn’t have a great father to experience that God is a father to the fatherless or motherless,” says Boynes. “That what he’s done for me, he will do for them also.”

Eleven years later, Boynes runs a ministry that offers help to those seeking to escape from the homosexual lifestyle. She also recently testified before the Minnesota Senate’s Judiciary Committee against the creation of homosexual “marriage.”

Noting that she and one of her lesbian partners wanted to “marry” and adopt children, she told the committee: “I’m so thankful that we did not go through with the plan and perpetuate another dysfunctional family. Children need one mother, and one father.”

This story is a good reminder of the importance of responding with Christian charity to those in need. God bless Janet Boynes for using her own painful past as a means of bringing hope and healing to others.