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BY Simcha Fisher
I know, I know, you're focused on Thanksgiving right now. Just bookmark this for next week.
Advent is coming! I always feel a little silly saying that, because the word "advent" actually means "coming." But that's how life is when you're In Charge of Stuff: you even have to plan about planning ahead. So, if you haven't looked it up yet, the first Sunday in Advent is Dec. 2, which is less than two weeks away.
We do try to put off celebrating Christmas until it's actually almost Christmas. I claim this is because it would be a violation of the integrity of the spirit of penance and preparation to behave as if Christmas has already arrived; but actually my main reason is that my fine young sons see decorations as a challenge. A punching challenge. When some new vision swims before their eyes, whether it's a pillow or a brother or gorgeous centerpiece bedecked with fragile berries, gilded bells and trembling, cinnamon-scented miniature pine cones, they say to themselves, "Gotta punch that."
So I put off Christmas as long as possible for Christmas' own good. I don't want Christmas to get punched.
Advent, however, can take a little smacking around. One of the great things about any kind of Advent preparation is that, by definition, you have to keep it simple and spare. A lush, lavish, complicated Advent makes about as much sense as a simple, understated fireworks display on the Fourth of July.
So as Advent approaches, I always remind myself that, while there are lots of wonderful ideas out there for how to observe the season, it's not only impossible to do it all, it would be contrary to the spirit of the season to go overboard! I plan small, and we can always add things later on years when we're feeling ambitious and energetic. We aim for simple, inexpensive, and edifying.
We do two things without fail every Advent. The first is an Advent wreath, which we attempt to light every night while singing "O Come, O Come Emmanuel" (adding two verses each week); but some years, it's mostly a Sunday thing. I just bought a cheapo twisted twig wreath at the dollar store, then use about forty yards of thread strapping evergreen branches down thoroughly. If I can't find purple and pink candles, I just use white, and tie on bows made of ribbon or cloth in the right colors. Oh, and after a lifetime of trying to attach candle holders to a wreath, I just gave up, and now use (again, cheapo dollar store) glass candle holders, which I set inside the wreath. I put the whole thing on a pizza pan, so I can easily move it off the table and store it in a safe, unpunchable place when it's not in direct use. Some years we have little golden balls and berries and doves, but other years, it's just the greenery. Here are prayers for each Sunday. Print it out now, along with a few copies of "O Come Emmanuel," and tape it to your pizza pan or something.
If this sounds unpleasantly practical and workaday to you, remember: Advent is dark. Lights out. Once you have candlelight and a capella singing, it's just as magical and luminous and mysterious as whatever the Vatican is doing on that same day.
(The child pictured above is utterly failing to think, "Tippy candle? No pinecones? This Advent is not impressive at all!")
The second thing we do for Advent is we all go to confession once or twice before Christmas.
That's it. That's the bare minimum, and some years, it's also the maximum we can manage. There are plenty of wonderful Advent ideas. But please remember, KEEP IT SIMPLE. Don't go overboard. Pick one or two, and don't make it elaborate. And make sure you get to confession!
If you want a hands-on project for your kids but aren't feeling very crafty, my sister Abby Tardiff put together this 2012 Advent Chain. [Sorry for the bad link this morning. This link will now bring you to my blog, where you will find a pdf to download.] Print out the six pages, cut the days into separatestrips, and staple or tape them into a long chain. You can hang the chain on your Christmas tree if you have one already, or anywhere in the house (hang it high, to avoid punching). Starting on Dec. 1 (which is Saturday, the vigil of the first Sunday in Advent), you cut off one link each day and read what's inside. Each link includes a Bible verse and a relevant picture, which kids can color.
If you like, you can color or attach the paper strips to construction paper strips before you make them into a chain: purple for the first, third and (very short) fourth weeks, and pink for the third week. I like the idea of a chain, because you can see it getting smaller and smaller as Christmas approaches. You can explain to kids that it reminds us of the chains of sin, which get weaker and weaker until our Savior arrives -- and then the chain is gone.
You could also use these verses and picture as ornaments for a Jesse Tree, adding one ornament each day of Advent. Or, if you're feeling brave and have kids who are old enough, you could just dump all your craft materials on the table, assign different symbols to each kid, and go hide for a couple of hours and see what happens. We do this some years for our "day after Thanksgiving" tradition. Lacking space for a free-standing Jesse Tree, I actually just clip a branch from a bare tree and bolt it to the wall. It looks good and weird, like a Catholic home should.
Another very easy Advent tradition that we manage to keep as a family most years is to "fast" from dessert except on Sundays. I take what money I would have spent, and buy extra food for the church's food pantry.
What are your Advent plans? On the years when you really followed the spirit of the season, what was it like?