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The Healing of a Football Player’s Wounded Heart (7641)

Former quarterback finds peace of soul in the Mass, priesthood and intercession of St. Joseph.

04/27/2012 Comments (15)
Norbert Kelsch

– Norbert Kelsch

The 49th World Day of Prayer for Vocations will be celebrated this Sunday, April 29, with the theme “Vocations, the Gift of the Love of God.” This theme is very close to the heart of Father Joseph Freedy, director of priestly vocations for the Diocese of Pittsburgh.

There was a time when such a concept was distant from his heart, which had been set on worldly goods. He was a standout quarterback in high school and at the University of Buffalo. Thousands cheered him on and looked up to him, but his heart remained restless. Despite his earnest attempts to the contrary, he could not find happiness in the noise of the world.

Happiness would be found where he had not expected it: in the Mass. After reading The Lamb’s Supper: The Mass as Heaven on Earth by Scott Hahn, what was once seen as a burdensome routine was revealed to be just what Joseph Freedy’s heart was seeking. His understanding of the Mass was so changed that he went to the seminary. On June 21, 2008, he was ordained a priest.

Father Freedy spoke with Register correspondent Trent Beattie.

 

 

You recently got back from a silent retreat. Would you recommend such a retreat to others?

Absolutely. Blessed Teresa of Calcutta always said that prayer is “God speaking in the silence of our hearts and us listening.” With the amount of noise in our world today, it really is necessary at times to get away from it in order to be able to connect with God on a deeper level. His voice most often can be heard not in the noise of the world, but in the silence of the heart. In Psalm 46, the Lord says, “Be still and know that I am God.” Then in the New Testament we see that Jesus is frequently going away to a solitary place to pray.

Sometimes when I start my annual retreat, which is required for priests, it takes a couple days to settle down and get into it. It can be a struggle initially, but by the time it’s over, the feeling I have is often one of wanting to stay there forever.

There are many types of retreats out there, but I find that I am disposed best to receive the grace the Lord desires to give on a silent retreat. There’s a time for faith sharing and fellowship, but there’s also a time to be silent and allow the Lord to be the only voice speaking in our hearts.

It’s about getting closer to the Lord and allowing him to speak to your heart. A retreat is basically an extraordinary manifestation of what we should be doing daily in prayer.

 

Did you want to be a priest as a young boy?

I was raised in a solid Catholic home in which we regularly had incredible priest friends over for dinner. For us, priests weren’t just people you’d only see at Mass, but you’d also see them around the house with your family. As a young boy, I was fascinated by these men and impressed with their exciting lives. Unconsciously, I looked up to them as one would do with an uncle. The call was there from a young age, but it was latent.

 

Then football came into the picture.

In western Pennsylvania, football is a very big deal, so playing wasn’t anything out of the ordinary. My two older brothers played the game, so I followed suit.

However, I took football too seriously, building my whole identity around it and using it as a means to fill an interior void. I dealt with a lot of insecurity growing up. I had a great family, so I don’t know why that insecurity was there, but from seventh grade through high school and even into college I wanted, even needed, to be the kid I thought everyone wanted me to be.

Religion was put on the back burner, and I tried to overcome the insecurity with praise and acceptance from everyone around me. I was a standout player in high school and then played at the University of Buffalo. During high school and into the first couple of years in college, partying was common for me as well. That was another thing I used in an attempt to fill the void within me.

However, something that helped to lead me into growing up and becoming a man was taking on the responsibility of leading the football team in college. I was not the starting quarterback initially, but because of a series of injuries to the guys ahead of me, I assumed the starting position for the 1999 season. Being the leader of a football team in Buffalo, where the sport is also taken seriously, was a way to start looking beyond myself and become more serious about life.

 

What were the other things that enabled you to do that?

In college, I got caught up in the garbage of the party scene, but through becoming the starting quarterback and being in a serious relationship with a girl for a few years, the Lord helped to pull me out of some of that. 

Then, a third thing that helped me grow up and really changed my life forever was reading a great book when I was home from college for Christmas break. My father would always have a Bible on the end table, along with another book. He would read from them before going to work each morning. Well, the book he happened to have there when I was on break was The Lamb’s Supper by Scott Hahn.

The opening paragraph really caught my eye because of how it related to my own life. It basically said that, on the one hand, nothing is so familiar to Catholics as the Mass, yet most of us don’t know what is beyond the surface of the memorized prayers. That really described my experience. I had attended Mass all my life but had never really looked beyond the outward appearances. Once I did look beyond them, I was drawn in by what was there.

My heart began to be filled with peace, joy and love. It was similar to St. Augustine’s experience, in that he had looked all over for happiness, but, only years later, realized that it was right in front of him. It was right there all along. My heart’s deepest longing would be satisfied in the Mass like I had never thought possible.

 

What did you do next?

After reading The Lamb’s Supper, I went back to school and wanted to go deeper into my faith and share what I had learned. I went to a group called Fellowship of Christian Athletes, but, at the time, I found many of the ideas the group discussed to be in opposition to what I was taught as a Catholic.

Then I went before the Lord in the Blessed Sacrament and asked him what to do. I spent a lot of time with the Lord, wrestling with him as far as what his plan for me was. On the one hand, I was beginning to be so much happier than before, but, on the other hand, I was at first very reluctant to really let go of  my own designs on life and pursue the priesthood.

I met with a vocations director, and he gently encouraged me to surrender to God’s plan for my life. God knows what’s best for us infinitely better than we do, so the intelligent thing to do is let him guide us.

 

After you surrendered to this call, you studied at the Pontifical North American College in Rome. What was that like?

It was an incredible experience. My first year there (2005) was the year Blessed Pope John Paul II died. There was his enormous funeral, which attracted attention from around the world. Then we welcomed our new Holy Father, Pope Benedict XVI. What a blessing both men are to the Church.

During my time there, I got to see that the city of Rome is saturated with grace — so much history, so many saints, so many visible testaments to the Christian faith. It was a great faith-building experience I’m so grateful for.

I also got to travel outside of Rome, and it was really an eye-opening thing to witness the truly universal character of the Church. Regardless of where you are in the world, it is one Catholic Church we belong to.

 

What do you appreciate most about the priesthood?

I could talk for an hour about this. The thing that’s most amazing is acting in persona Christi — or “in the person of Christ.” This is what occurs in confession, when the priest says not “Jesus absolves you,” but “I absolve you.” It also occurs in the Mass, when the priest says not “This is Jesus’ body,” but “This is my body.”

The priest is the mediator between God and men, which is an unbelievably beautiful and profound thing: God is calling me to do this. It’s so great that it’s difficult not to cry when thinking about it. Sometimes I have cried even while acting in persona Christi because I’m struck with the love God has for his people. The humility of God to allow mere men to act in the person of the Only Begotten Son is an amazing thing.

To know that my hands have been anointed to bring the body and blood of Christ to the world and to forgive sins — what an indescribable blessing. The gift of the priesthood is overwhelming. I’ve been ordained for almost four years now and have never had an unhappy day as a priest. Praise God for that.

 

You’re currently the director of priestly vocations for the Diocese of Pittsburgh. What are some of the challenges you face in that position?

I’ve been doing this for two years now, and it’s an incredible joy. There are challenges, though, to building a culture of vocations. Perhaps the biggest one is convincing young people that God is alive and real and has a perfect plan for our lives. He has prepared a vocation for each and every one of us from all eternity.

It’s the concept expressed in Jeremiah 1:5: that before God formed us in the womb, he knew us. Our lives are not accidents, but perfectly prepared and provided for by God. I’m so content knowing that I’m doing what I was born to do, and I want others to know that contentment as well by helping them to realize their own calls.

 

What advice do you give to young men who are discerning a call to the priesthood?

There are three essential things I mention, and all of them lead us closer to God. The first is prayer. You simply have to pray every day; otherwise, you’re not going to have the grace to do God’s will. Praying as a child in need of his father’s help is what enables us to live our daily lives in peace.

What I tell young men regarding a possible priestly vocation is to pray over the calls recorded in the Bible. That is, meditate upon the call of Abraham, of David, of Jeremiah, of St. Peter, of St. Paul. Look into the history of how God calls men to his service and pray about whether this is something God is calling you to as well.

The second thing that is incredibly helpful is Eucharistic adoration, which can be seen as a specific form or occurrence of prayer. It’s talking with Jesus in his direct presence. The same Jesus who walked the earth 2,000 years ago is still with us today in the Eucharist. Prayer before the Lord is something very special.

The third essential thing is to stay close to Our Lady. John Paul II wrote that all vocations occur with a Marian disposition at the Annunciation. In other words, we may not have been planning on a specific calling, but when we know God is calling us, we have to be receptive to that and put it into action with love.

There is also a book I like to recommend to young men discerning a priestly vocation. It’s called To Save a Thousand Souls by Father Brett A. Brannen.

 

Do you have a patron saint?

St. Joseph is my patron. He was the most chaste spouse of Our Lady and the foster father of Jesus. How amazing is that? As the protector and head of the Holy Family, he is a prime example of what a man in general, and what a priest specifically, should be. This is explained in the book The Life and Glories of St. Joseph by Father Edward Healy Thompson.

St. Teresa of Avila had great admiration for St. Joseph and said that anyone who was having trouble praying should take him as a guide. She received many benefits from him and wanted to share his powerful intercession with everyone else. I understand her desire because, like the Holy Spirit, St. Joseph is often overlooked today. If we learned more about St. Joseph and became more devoted to him, we would come much closer to being the men God called us to be. We would be totally dedicated to Jesus and Mary.

Register correspondent Trent Beattie writes from Seattle.

 

 

 

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WOW… Thank you Fr.Freedy for hearing and answering God’s call for His Church. Thank you Thank you…I will send this article 1st to my son who is lax in practicing his faith..and played football in college and 2ndly to my best friends son discerning a vocation… I love our priests and pray hard for them. God Bless Fr.Freedy abundantly as he serves the Church encouraging others to yield to God’s call.

Beautiful article!

Beautiful story! And great witness to our young men -

  Those who have known the world and its ‘glories’ and have chosen to serve God without regreats, knowing that they have chosen true happiness.  What a witness they are for the rest of us.

Football player to priest seems to be the norm for the Diocese of Pittsburgh. Something in the water maybe?

Thank you Fr Freedy for sharing
Our Lord is indeed alive and well in the hearts of men and women!
I do not have sons, but will forward this to our parish priest who is the diocesan director for vocation
Our parish has a monthly Adoration for Vocation [ 8 hour]
Will frwd this to my parish priest , would be a good article for our weekly parish bulletin
Please be assured of our continued prayers for your vocation and your work

Fr. Freedy says, ““I went to a group called Fellowship of Christian Athletes, but, at the time, I found many of the ideas the group discussed to be in opposition to what I was taught as a Catholic.”

Will you please elaborate on this?  It would be useful to have specifics.
I ask, because right now in the USA, all Christians have to join hands - working together - to stop ungodly legislation, such as same-sex marriage, abortion and embryonic stem cell research.

Thus far, it is our *Catholic* politicians that are leading the way downhill for us as a country, morally speaking.  People like Rick Santorum are not the norm.  They are anomolys.

Yet, men like Chuck Colson, from the Manhattan Declaration, have reached across “party” lines in terms of Christianity, to build bridges, and Colson was successful.  Thanks be to God for him, and for the priests & bishops that were wise enough to see that together, we stand.  Divided, we fall.

Any new vocations would need to keep the momentum of joining hands with like-minded fellow Christians going, OR our country will go the way of “Catholic” Spain, that already has same-sex marriage.  Even Italy, is scandal ridden, in terms of their “Catholic” politicians & finances, morals.

It’s nice to do silent retreats.  But contemplating our belly buttons in 2012 will not a healthy, God-honoring country make.  There is a time and a place for silence, and there is always time for prayer.  If we do not have the Holy Spirit living IN us when we arrive at Mass, no amount of consecrated Hosts will give us any more of Him.  We need to be active now, vocal, educated - and pragmatic.  Our country’s future is at stake.

Thursday, May 3 is the National Day of Prayer for the USA.  I think all Catholic churches should be open, for prayer.  It does not have to be an elaborate liturgy, with clergymen and a Master of Ceremonies from the Bishops office.  Just lay people, getting together to pray, begging God for mercy on our country.

How about it?  Catholics, being Christians, praying at the same time as non-Catholic members of the Body of Christ are praying.  One hour - 12 noon- 1PM, Thursday, May 3.

I can personally attest that he is wonderful priest!  He’s running to support our inner city youth minister program in the upcoming Pittsburgh Marathon on May 5- you can support him at http://www.razoo.com/story/Fr-Freedy-S-Run

Terah James,

You state, “It’s nice to do silent retreats. But contemplating our belly buttons in 2012 will not a healthy, God-honoring country make.”
Allow me to quote Pope Benedict from his message for the 46th World Day of Communications:

“The God of biblical revelation speaks also without words: ‘As the Cross of Christ demonstrates, God also speaks by his silence. The silence of God, the experience of the distance of the almighty Father, is a decisive stage in the earthly journey of the Son of God, the incarnate Word …. God’s silence prolongs his earlier words. In these moments of darkness, he speaks through the mystery of his silence’ (Verbum Domini, 21). The eloquence of God’s love, lived to the point of the supreme gift, speaks in the silence of the Cross. After Christ’s death there is a great silence over the earth, and on Holy Saturday, when ‘the King sleeps and God slept in the flesh and raised up those who were sleeping from the ages’ (cf. Office of Readings, Holy Saturday), God’s voice resounds, filled with love for humanity.

“If God speaks to us even in silence, we in turn discover in silence the possibility of speaking with God and about God. ‘We need that silence which becomes contemplation, which introduces us into God’s silence and brings us to the point where the Word, the redeeming Word, is born’ (Homily, Eucharistic Celebration with Members of the International Theological Commission, 6 October 2006). In speaking of God’s grandeur, our language will always prove inadequate and must make space for silent contemplation. Out of such contemplation springs forth, with all its inner power, the urgent sense of mission, the compelling obligation ‘to communicate that which we have seen and heard’ so that all may be in communion with God (1 Jn 1:3). Silent contemplation immerses us in the source of that Love who directs us towards our neighbours so that we may feel their suffering and offer them the light of Christ, his message of life and his saving gift of the fullness of love.”

As he has said elsewhere without silence and prayer, all that we do as Christians becomes mere activism. This does not mean that are not active, but that activity must be grounded in the Lord otherwise we shall be laboring in vain.

Fr. Reedy:  Thank you for communicating the “incremental” lifetime step experiences it took you to finally discern to become a “ordained” Priest forever.  I am blessed with the “gift of tears” and they were sure flowing during the latter parts of your testimony.  I am a committed Serran associate member an attempt to pray daily for increased vocations to not only the Priesthood, but also the ordained diaconate and religious life communities.  I will be forwarding your sharing to my local Mission San Luis Rey Parish, Oceanside, CA head liturgist associate pastor, Franciscan Fr. Adrian Peelo.  Fr. Adrian also provides a “discernment group” experience, at least once monthly, for any men wanting to look at what the Lord might be asking of them.  Hopefully, if he feels the need, he will incorporate some of your testimony.  Thank you for your wonderful personal sharing.

Thomas S - thank you for your thoughtful reply.  And with that said, how much credibility do our bishops have here in the USA?  Nancy Pelosi, a fellow Catholic, called them “just another group of lobbyists”.

Bless his little 85 year old heart, even Pope Benedict (and I do like him) has no real clout, here in the US or in any other developed country, even in Italy! 

Our clergymen remind me of the Wizard, in the Wizard of Oz, blowing smoke and sounding tough, for the most part, but underneath it all, they are seen as marshmallows, to be ignored. 

Being so “heady” and removed from it all is what, in my opinion, has caused ALL Catholics (and other Christians included) to be disregarded as real players in the public sector, in terms of creating legislation. 

When we call for God-honoring laws (like NO same sex marriage) we are seen as hateful and intolerant whiners.  Our time is best spent equipping ourselves to SPEAK up for a moral society, and while it *can* come by being silent, and by listening to God (through Scripture study, mostly) and to other Christians, the days we are living in ought not be same-old, same-old, or America will continue its moral decline into the toilet.

Good men, and in particular, good clergymen, need to be equipped so that on Sundays, when Catholics come to Mass, they can equip us to be salt and light to the world.

If the Vatican and all its cardinals, popes were successful in years past, then Spain, formerly a Catholic country, would not have same sex marriage now.  And yet, they do.

MEN IN THE CATHOLIC CHURCH - lay and ordained - UNITE!!!!!!!!!  By the way, I know tons of Catholics that think Nancy Pelosi is great.  Sigh.

I just want to reiterate comments earlier that it is just wonderful that we have Priests like yourself to shepherd us all the way to our final destination and to give others inspiration and encouragement to look to a vocation in the Priesthood.  Our Priests deserve all our prayers, praise and financial backing.  Thank you Fr Freedy for sharing your story with us all.

Today is the National Day of Prayer - it was recognized from 12 noon-1PM, in City Halls across the country.

Instead of meeting at City Hall, last night a few people at my Bible study class made the announcement that anyone wanting to come and pray together in our parish (always open, after the 8AM Mass until 4PM, Mon-Fri), can bring their Bible and just show up.  Eight of us were there today!!!

One of the women prepared a one page sheet of intentions (taken from the National Day of Prayer website, I think) that was very comprehensive, and she handed out verses for all of us to look up and read, after each intention was mentioned.

When the verse “Seek ye first the Kingdom of God, and all will be added to you…”, one lady spontaneously asked if we could sing together the refrain to that hymn - it was lovely!

Seven women and one man (our Bible study facilitator) was there - and everyone got a chance to add our own intentions too.  We ended with a couple of hymns about America that were in our missalettes, and all in all, we prayed together for 45 minutes.  Psalm 130 verse 20 (if memory serves) indicates that God’s angels are “activated” in some way, when the Bible is read in prayer, and wherever two or more are gathered in His Name, we know Jesus was there.

Lastly, we prayed together 2Chronicles, “If my people that are called by My Name, will humble themselves, and seek My Face and pray, and repent from their sins,I will hear from Heaven, and I will heal their land.”

How I wish next year, Roman Catholic Churches across the country will be open from 12 noon-1PM, so that all parishioners can come in and pray together.  This was great.

No staff time was needed - as it was spontaneous, and no priest, deacon, bishop, master of ceremonies, no one at all even knew we were in there, except a friend of mine that popped by the church to make a visit, and as I’d been inviting her for over a year to come on Wednesday nights to our Bible study class, she finally got to meet everyone, including Bob, our fearless faciliator, who spends so much time preparing for our study, to keep everyone participating, and the time flowing in the Spirit.

Will everyone PLEASE ask their pastors, and their BISHOPS, to spread the word that the First Thursday in May is always the National Day of Prayer, and to urge all parishes to be open, at least from 12 noon-1PM next year?

By the way, I was thrilled that Anna Mitchell (news) reported on the Sunrise Morning Show this morning that this is a special day - and they even aired an interview with Shirley Dobson, National Day of Prayer Coordinator in DC.  That was excellent!!!  Humble ourselves, and pray, all together.

Fr. Joe is AWESOME !!! I am so happy to say that I know Fr. Joe. He has such a love for God.

Fr. Joe was a “fill in” at our Mass yesterday morning. We were blessed to have him there. While his style shocked some, most became positively engaged and you could actually feel God’s presence. Other priests should follow Fr. Joe’s lead and relaize that the masses of Catholics needs to wake up and know that God is alive and loves us no matter what. Something special happened at OLOV yesterday.

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