WASHINGTON — Traditional-marriage advocates of all stripes rallied outside the Supreme Court in Washington on Tuesday, calling for the institution of marriage to be maintained.
Doug Mainwaring was one of those standing up in defense of marriage as the union of a man and a woman.
He himself is an admitted former member of a same-sex union.
“I have as much trouble with no-fault divorce as I have with same-sex marriage,” he told an audience outside the Supreme Court building.
Nonetheless, he sees danger in re-defining marriage — so much so that he is actively fighting it in front of the Supreme Court.
“The way I got into this was through concern for my children,” he explained to CNA. “In trying to form a family with another man, I finally concluded, ‘This is nuts.’ My kids don’t need two dads in the house. They need both a mother and a father.”
He left the union to repair his marriage, which he believes was in the best interest of his children.
“Kids don’t have a voice,” he said of the current marriage debate. “I know many who were raised in same-sex households who, even though they love their parents, they deeply, deeply regret that parent of the other gender that they missed having a relationship with. And I just believe we need to do whatever’s best for children.”
Mainwaring was among the crowds who stood outside the Supreme Court as it heard oral arguments April 28 in Obergefell v. Hodges, a case appealed to the nation’s highest court from the 6th Circuit Court of Appeals.
The case deals with same-sex couples’ lawsuits against four states — Michigan, Ohio, Kentucky and Tennessee — over laws defining marriage as between a man and a woman. The 6th Circuit previously upheld the laws, saying that the states had the power to define marriage.
The Supreme Court agreed to hear the cases in January, in order to decide under the 14th Amendment if states must grant marriage licenses to same-sex couples and recognize such marriages conducted in other states. The case could result in a nationwide redefinition of marriage. The court will likely issue a ruling in June.
Outside the court on Tuesday morning, activists on both sides of the marriage issue packed the sidewalks.
Andrew Guernsey, a junior at Johns Hopkins University, was frank about his fellow Millennials who support same-sex “marriage.”
“I think many of my peers are misguided on the issue,” he said.
While many young people believe they are “fighting for equality,” he explained, “what they’re asking for is changing what marriage is.”
“And we can love our gay and lesbian friends without changing the fact that every child comes from a mom and a dad. And there’s something special about that.”
Caitlin La Ruffa, director of the Love and Fidelity Network, agreed. Her organization works to help educate and prepare young people to support and defend marriage.
She said that her generation has already been stung by changes to marriage, such as no-fault divorce. To re-define marriage further will only make things worse, she maintained.
“They’ve seen the breakdown, and their families have been devastated by it,” she said of Millennials, noting that many young people have not been raised by both a mother and a father.
“Most of us aren’t parents yet,” she added, continuing to say that she thinks more young people might support marriage as the union of a man and a woman as they themselves get married.
Ryan Bomberger, co-founder of the pro-life Radiance Foundation, also spoke in defense of marriage.
“None of this has to do with equality,” he said of the push to redefine marriage. “It has to do with others’ ideology being forced upon us and for us to accept it.”
As a black man, as well as “someone who was adopted and grew up in a very diverse home, someone born as a result of rape, I know all about equality,” he said.
Bomberger said that he sees marriage as a “foundational issue of any society” and “a core conviction that can’t be changed by any poll or any Supreme Court ruling.”
While supporters of same-sex “marriage” embrace the 14th Amendment to argue in favor of a right to marriage that cannot be infringed upon, Bomberger says that there is no right to same-sex “marriage” there.
The amendment, adopted three years after the end of the Civil War, “was actually to ascribe humanity to people of my complexion,” he said of the amendment, which solidified due-process rights for freed slaves in the South. “It was not to affirm every single behavior known to humankind.”
Ultimately, the argument to defend marriage is about love and not judgment, Bomberger maintained. However, this view often gets attacked, he said, by a society that does not understand the true definition of love.
“We’ve lost the concept of what love is,” he insisted, noting that, as a father, he “will warn” his children out of love “against actions and behaviors that are destructive to them.”
“Because I love them,” he stressed, “I try to keep them from doing it.”



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Millenials are not the only ones to lose true love. Many have extolled a self-centered love as a replacement for biblical love for decades. https://textsincontext.wordpress.com/2014/03/16/love-basics-heresies-divorce-homosexuality-church/
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I really chuckle when I read about the anger of my Catholic leaders and brothers towards gays and same sex marriage!! I recently attended a wedding at a Presbyterian Church… which was full of born-again Christians. They praised the Lord, Alleluia! They laid hands on the groom and bride. The Minister spoke very eloquently about the sanctity of marriage and what Jesus would have done! The Bible was quoted more times than I hear from my Catholic priest normally. The groom had been married once before and the bride three times already!! There are kids from almost each of these four marriages combined. I kept saying to myself: “who am I to judge?” and, yet, on the other hand, I was thinking: “where are the Catholic leaders? How come they do not demonstrate anger and rage - as they do for same sex marriage - towards their sister Christian Churches who make a farce of the sanctity and indissolubility of marriage? Where are US Bishops to decry that children are transferred from home to home, every week?” Unless I am mistaken,there are hundreds of thousands of such Christian marriages of divorced people every year in the USA and, my fellow Catholics, THESE pose a real threat to the sanctity of marriage and its supposed indissolubility! Same sex marriage, performed outside Christian churches, become a very relative threat in that context. Catholic Cardinals and Bishops do not have the courage of their conviction when faced with that real threat christian marriages and people who marry, demarry and remarry as easily as changing house.
“While many young people believe they are “fighting for equality,” he explained, “what they’re asking for is changing what marriage is.”
Marriage has traditionally been between a man and a woman. Yes. We get that. Now it will be between two people, regardless of each one’s sex.
For the man and the woman, nothing changes about their marriage. It is the same committment that has always been. And it will be the same committment now for the same sex couple. So how is marriage changed just because it has become available to people it wasn’t previously available to?
I would agree that traditional marriage is rapidly becoming non standard. I would agree that this might not be the best thing that could happen.
The problem is that it can’t be saved by protections similar to those given endangered species or forced upon everyone through legislation.
It’s not so-called “no-fault divorce” that is the source of the trouble. No-fault is only a rule for dividing up marital assets after the State grants a divorce. Don’t be distracted or misled about the real source of the trouble: unilateral divorce.
The abolition of marriage “as long as we both shall live” and its replacement with sham marriages lasting “as long as we both care to” was smuggled into no-fault divorce legislation.
Perhaps the silence about breaking marriage with unilateral divorce is due to divorce’s popularity among females, who are the initiator of divorces 2/3rds of the time or more. (Feminists claim it is as high as 91% of the time.) Contrary to what is often heard from bishops, priests, deacons, homilists, and Catholic TV and radio apologists, the disproportionate propensity of females to initiate divorce is not due to husbands beating or cheating (why oh why do our clergy and apologists denigrate men so unjustly so often?) but because she’s “bored” or “not in love any more”.
For people who are Straight (i.e. heterosexual), absolutely nothing about marriage is changing or being redefined. The marriage equality movement was never some sinister effort to make homosexuality compulsory, or to force Straight people to go to Gay weddings. Most people are Straight, and they will continue to date, get engaged, marry, and build lives and families together as they always have. None of that is going to change when Gay couples decide to tie the knot also.
Anyway, I had always been taught that getting married was preferable to just shacking up together.
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