Everything I Really Need to Know, I Learned By Screwing Up Horribly

09/27/2012 Comments (60)

The other day, I was talking to someone who was planning to get married.  She wasn't even engaged yet, but was thinking ahead, and was looking for some reading materials.  She wanted to learn everything she could, so she would do it right when the time finally came.

I admire this in the same way I admire people who climb Mount Everest -- thinking, Holy cow, good for you!  But are you sure we're the same species?

Because the truth is, there are some things that you can't really prepare for.  The only way you can learn how to do them is to mess them up horribly, and then make several course corrections, and expect to continue doing that for the rest of your life.  Or at least, there are...READ MORE

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"I always thought I wanted a big family, but . . ."

09/25/2012 Comments (108)

Here's a perennial question that turns up wherever Catholic moms gather:  a young mom admits, "I always thought I wanted a big family.  But now I have a toddler and a baby, and I feel like I'm losing my mind.  I love them, and do my best to take care of them, but life is boring and hard.  I feel like I'm not good at this, and I don't really like my life at all.  It makes me feel so guilty, but I can't imagine going through this even one more time with one more kid -- never mind the six or seven or eight more times!"

There are few things more discouraging than realizing that something you always wanted is not what you thought it would be -- especially when, all around you, there are...READ MORE

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The Reading Room

09/21/2012 Comments (47)

Every so often, the posts in this blog elicit some grumbling over what does and does not constitute appropriate reading material for Catholics.  From one camp, the argument goes, "Life is short!  Far to short for fol-de-rol.  Our eternal souls are at stake, so it's not just a matter of taste -- it's an actual sin to waste time talking about things that are not clearly and specifically labelled 'Catholic' and designed expressly to improve our spiritual state."

The other argument goes, "Yeah, but if you're going to be Catholic all the time, that means going about your business as a Catholic.  You just assume that everything you say is from a Catholic point of view, and you don't have to...READ MORE

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Dealing With Fear

09/20/2012 Comments (45)

A reader writes:

So, It's 1am, and I just finished a cake. All the while I was painting tiny little gold letters on said cake, all I could think about was how freaking terrified I am about the future of our country and the world. I feel as though all I can think about involves fear. I know that this is "not of God", as they say. How do I deal with fear like this? I'm growing weary of constantly feeling like I'm going to hyperventilate. :)

Oh yes, fear.  Fear is exhausting, and it sucks all the joy out of the day.  There are some practical things you can do to relieve fear over the state of the world:

First:  when the source of our fear is the news, there is a really simple...READ MORE

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Much Ado About Vocations

09/18/2012 Comments (32)

A reader writes:

    How did you/do you discern a ‘vocation’ to writing alongside your primary marriage/motherhood vocation?

    I love writing and I sometimes feel called to share more. Looking back, I should have listened to my college English 101 teacher and worked for a Writing/English degree. In the end I gave up a college degree for a husband and children (and have no regrets presently about it). I already write for CatholicMom.com and occasionally for my local Diocesan paper and I enjoy that.

    I’m trying to figure out if I should seek out other places to publish because this is what God is asking of me or if it is just something I want to feed my ego.

A very...READ MORE

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Who's Coming To Dinner?

09/14/2012 Comments (53)

Have you seen this video?  This is what happens when someone sits down with the Dalai Lama and attempts to have some light, enjoyable conversation



Heh.  I like that joke, and I'm fairly sure I would attempt to tell it to the Dalai Lama, even while every rational synapse in my brain was firing with all its might in an effort to get me to shut up.  Kind of like the time I found myself chatting over wine and cheese with a Biblical scholar who had just delivered an original and fascinating lecture about the peculiarities of Aramaic, and I discovered, to my horror, that I was already halfway through a detailed account of how my high school German teacher went to an amusement park...READ MORE

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Kids and Politics

09/13/2012 Comments (60)

On Tuesday, we drove past the community center where the local primary was being held.  My daughter heaved a sigh.  "Well," she said, "I guess I'll stop and vote for Romney on the way home."  Only she pronounced it "Womney," because she is three years old (and, like most three-year-olds, assumes that the adult world is desperate for her vote).

We didn't deliberately teach her anything about the election or politics (and she was pretty disgusted to hear that we won't have a chance to heave a sigh and vote for Womney until November anyway).  But I guess it's just in the air at our house; and, in general, we do believe it's a very good thing for kids to consider voting to be a part of the...READ MORE

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This Isn't Who I Really Am!

09/11/2012 Comments (58)

Many's the time I've told my husband, "You don't even know who I really am!  All you know is how I am when I'm pregnant, or postpartum, or pregnant and postpartum, or hypothyroid, or how I am when I've gone six years without sleeping.  You don't understand!" I will say, as he watches me melt down under stress and exhaustion.  "I'm not really like this!"

This may have been true, for a while.  But we've been living this life long enough that I really have to face facts:  this is my life. 

I'm not complaining, mind you.  I have a good life.  But it is crazy, and it makes me crazy.  The way I respond to the craziness of my life?  That's who I am.  This is my life, and this is me, living...READ MORE

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Simcha Fisher, author of The Sinner's Guide to Natural Family Planning writes for several publications and blogs daily at Aleteia. She lives in New Hampshire with her husband and ten children. Without supernatural aid, she would hardly be a human being.