When a fight breaks out between my kids, and they can't solve it on their own, here's what I do.
I gather them all and make everyone except one kid shut up. He gets to explain his point of view thoroughly, giving all the details he thinks are relevant, and nobody else is allowed to interrupt. Then the other kid gets to explain his point of view: everything the other kid left out, why the other kid's argument is a gross exaggeration, why we forgot to take into account all the history and extenuating circumstances that led up to the current crisis, and so on -- and no one else is allowed to interrupt. I listen to everything that everyone thinks is relevant; and while each kid is talking,...READ MORE